Some people don't understand that once you have grief, it is part of your life. It's not something to resent (although you do sometimes). You just accept it and keep moving. For instance, I cry because I miss her sometimes and that's OK. But it seems unacceptable to people who don't get it. They want you to stop crying or do something to fix or prevent it. But you can't. There is no more shame in crying for me. Unavoidable and justified, I have learned to let it happen as opposed to trying to stop it. The sadness will never go away so it is futile to fight. Strength does not come from protection, armoring yourself to avoid wounds. Strength comes from enduring the battle and all of the inflictions it brings.